Today Is My Best Friend's Day Passing

For many years, I couldn’t seem to overcome my best friend’s passing. Many times, we never get a chance to say goodbye. His passing was really abrupt and challenging so much it didn’t seem real. We all deal with someone and or many people passing, A place being in the family being sold despite being with us for generations. The memories will always be there and no one can take them away.

With time, everything is changing, aging, getting older. Including our ownselves. Cutting yourself off from your past is so important to over all well being. Otherwise you will dwell so much in what could, would, should have been. It was what it was, that is how it will always been, Many times in the past there has been a mentality of lack however, now is in the now. You have to set yourself apart to being in your own state of happiness.

Forgive Yourself First

We all have regrets in wishing we did more, or a different outcome would have happened. The past is over and now is the time to understand that was then and this is now. Why let your past choices eat at you all of thse years. I know, I can say the same. I personally have used what my past decisions I have made against myself. Others have said, Don't be so hard on yourself. So easy to beat yourself over all what you have done and wish you could have accomplished

\.No matter what, Today is your choice to change the path you have in the past to the future you immerse yourself. You deserve to love yourself. I had to learn to love myself. Adapting your mindset to loving who you are and the person you strive to be is a whole new perspective. It is so easy to go back to the old way when see, you are worth the sacrifice, truth, honesty, integrity, open expression to have the life you desire.

Observe Others And Fill In The Need You See

To have the help you are wanting you have to give before receiving. The majority of people will not help you until you do something for them. It is not a guarantee you will get help you are seeking. However, being the initiator will encourage them to help you. The act will show, you are a person of value. Going out of the way consistently doing more then is expected. Too many people only do the minimum. What good is it when you are wanting to get ahead.

You have to look at where you can be the highest value and asset to those around you. The answer is right in front of you. It could be the thoughts you have to enable another person. Something may need to be fixed. To any other person, it is small. The act of fixing is showing of their significance. Each event you create maybe small to you, however you don’t know how it could make a huge influence on another. Push yourself every day. It is the essence of who you are.

Why Wait?

Why do we wait until the end of our lives to have closure? It is so easy to hold on to grudges and have unanswered questions. Decades of things in which authentic open confessions need to be said instead of holding back. Yes, the intial fear is there for question of acceptance of being upfront. In working so much, family doesn’t hardly see you within the exception of a few times a year. It is crazy how being apart from family is wishing you could see them more and at the time same time not having supportive family in your creative process even though you love them.

Making a point in having meaningful times the sooner the better. My grandpa and I finally had a real conversation instead of what the day to day is. Each human being needs to have this inner connection. The artificial and minimal, shallow of focus on physical materials, and only money will lead to a dead end. Yes, it is great to have all of these things. In the sharing of what you have is where the fulfillment and experiences you will add to who you a whole. Having the most out of your life is what counts along with a deeper place to express who you are with a freeing vehicle to do so.

Becoming More Aware Of Your Body

Many signs your body is showing you in physical form. Listen to what your body is saying. It will guide you to better health. In consistantly acquiring more knowledge about personal health, this can help you to save time, money, and energy. People are wondering why are they feeling so bad. If they paid closer attention to their body, several of these situations could be avoided and or miminalized in the flare ups. Our health the highest investment in our quality of life, energy, focus, and over all well being. You owe this to yourself. Sooner you start the more you will be thanking yourself. I personal learned this the hard way.

In stressful times, finding something productive and releasing your stress will help you in working through your present. Create something meaningful in your own language by who you are. Instead of dealing with your situation negatively, why not use this to learn more and refocus in what is important to you. Your choice to decide is every day you live. Why not, remove your blockages and put in what makes you better as a whole.

The Answers Are In Front Of You

I was watching a video by Eric Thomas recently. He is an awesome speaker and has a great connecting story. I can identify with him and his story. He was saying, listen to what others are saying to help you serve better. The answer is in the questions and comments being said.Mentors are all around, you have to pick the right ones to be where you want to be.

The mentors you choose already has the life and achievement you are seeking. Build rapport with them by mirroring them in how they speak and body language. Make it a point to learn new things and connect with people who are like yourself and or who you want to be like

.It is funny how at first I didn't want to offer something because I didn't think it would fit.  However, with the comments being said, the offering and idea would help serve more people. Having another tool to help others in have closure and improve mental health is what I enjoy doing. We all have unanswered questions and to have a final closure brings meaning to move forward instead of being stuck. Remember the anwer is there for you to discover.

An Honest Reveal Situation

Last year and this year has been a huge challenge for myself in my health. I have not posted as much as I was. In getting medical tests done, I have been wanting to do for a long time to gauge where am I at, a few things stood out. One of them is my liver has to improve. If your liver isn't functioning well enough, your energy levels will go down a lot. The state of your liver function depends on how well it is in enough to recover. I was asked if I drink alcohol, I said no, I have ever drank any alcohol.

I don't drink alcohol since I have witnessed the issues it can cause over time. It is a tool in which tore my family apart. Also without drinking alcohol you can still have a fatty liver. Too much carbohydrates and sugar and more will lead to a fatty liver. This is a huge problem especially in the north america. Obesity is a major role in fatty liver and is so vital to do everything in life

.In  speaking about my health, I have took off 45lbs and still have a ways to go. I have added suppliments, cut added sugar, cooked at home, eat a lot more vegetables, and some fruit, doing a lot more lifting since it helps circulation and strength. I drink about 1/2 gallon to 1 gallon of water a day. I am working on the inflamation in my body. Remember inflamation leads to diseases and cancers. Make sure it learn about lowering your inflamation and food allergies to have a better life.

Unforgiveness Will Tear You Down On All Levels- Forgive To Release The Internal Weight

Recently, I was in my old neighborhood. Many of the businesses were gone, the windows boarded up, and a not very many people were there. I hadn't been back in years. Even the finance company who gave me a chance was no longer there. I had gotten my first car loan through them. The chinese international buffet my family and I had all went to for easter was boarded up. The memories of my best friend passing away and in the event of last time talking with him wasn't a good situation. One this same road my best friend and his sister is buried. Already it has been seventeen almost eighteen years. It doesn't seem like this amount of time has passed.

Many decades of unforgiveness, I had inside of myself. I didn't know with all of this negative force along with holding in unforgiveness, anger, frustration, resentment, all of this would take a toll on my over all health. I saw this as just another obstacle instead of releasing of the negativity, and memories to hold myself back

. Your mind is more important then what others think. Your mind is the central foundation of who you are and the defining values you share. I had to take the time to forgive and work through all of the past negative memories. Very intense and were still lingering with the back of my mind. Remember this, this is a process worth doing for your well being of letting go and enjoying what time you have left to live.

An End To Over A 10 Year Vehicle Relationship

In march of 2008, I purchased a nissan altima. It was my first car I had ever owned. This car was my most expensive purchase I had ever made. At the time, I didn't have any credit history with no credit cards, no debt, and or credit lines. I was 25 at the time. This car has so many memories throughout the years. I had been on dates in this car, also taking my sisters to different places for christmas shopping when they were much younger. When I bought this car, I was so proud of myself in having a fresh start.

This was my vehicle I have had the longest. In Feb. 2015, I was in an accident where I guy ran a stop sign. The car protected me through the whole situation. Yes, it has had so many ups and downs in having great times and  down times in fixing the car. Many people don't think of vehicles as a personal story. In thinking about it, our vehicles are there even in failing events happen. No matter what they are always there for us. I purchased the car when it had 61k miles and when I sold the car there was almost 177k miles on it. The memories of when my father changed the fuel pump for free and even purchasing the part. The many runs with delivery of my sculptures. At time to begin and another time to end. A car that was there through thick and thin.

Make Conversations Count

As dealing with visiting with my grandparents and seeing their transition from going from their home to going to a retirement is a huge difference. Think about it, Can you pick having your freedom and ability to go where you want, when you want for 9 decades, then after falling, going to surgery to never going back to the home you worked for to own decades? Also working through, seeing your own wife not being here mentally and forgetting decades of memories to forgetting who family are. Plus, in coming to terms of outliving all of your father, mother, and siblings to having no one you knew growing up is still here.

At a certain point, it is a accomplishment to outlive all of your close family and at the same time a very challenging time. Anyone who does this, has to come to terms of it. In mid part of time of this year since my grandparents have transitioned over to a retirement home, I have made it an intention to have meaningful conversations with my grandpa. Many things, we both wanted to say for years and didn’t have that kind of moment to share. My grandpa is very blunt and to the point. An style of being straight to the point is something many people need these days. Yes, it may hurt upfront however it is the honesty, we all crave to have. In knowing, each time this maybe the last time I get to see my grandpa, I make sure there is closure and a meaningful interaction. I had wanted to tell him for a long time. He needs to have an uplifting memmorable experience in what time he has left. The same goes for you. I’d like to hear your feedback and how you can relate.