Instead of claiming victim hood, claim your are victorious. There are so many negative sub conscience messages which control our actions and or lack. You have to take responsibility in your actions or lack there of. Build yourself up by testing your ability. Be patient. It's worth the investment of time. Remember, your time is more valuable then any material possession.
Courage - We must have this.
Every day we must read empowering books, listen to great uplifting music and messages. What you surround yourself with will reflect from you. Be careful in what you allow in. From time to time take inventory of does this benefit anyone and or yourself.
Put on your armor so you will be able to hold even in the most challenging times. They normally come when you least expect it. When you prepare yourself ahead of time, you will be able to overcome what obstacle which comes your way.