Take Advantage Of Each Opportunity Today

My step dad was a us navy veteran. He lived his life and wished he would have taken more opportunities. Making a family came before the opportunities he could have taken. I didn't understand him until I finally saw the whole picture on why he was depressed. My step dad was mental abusive. The upbringing he came from was at a distance from his mother and father. I think he wishes his parents would have shown more affection towards him. For many years, I had a grudge against him. It was so blinding in how much I disliked him. His health started going down hill five years before he had passed away. I had wanted him to quit smoking years ago for him to be here longer. One day, I asked him, "Do you want to see your two daughters graduate from high school ?" He never answered. I know he wishes he could have achieved more.

Tommorrow is not Guaranteed. Make each day with action. You never know when your last day will be. 

Work On Redirecting Your Emotions

I have been thinking lately about how I respond in different situations. In being a potential leader position or even a person who is listened to on a honest level when speaking, you have to learn to control your emotions. Yes, controlling your emotions can be really challenging when there is so much on your plate. For example, top level CEOs of many companies. Others only look at their pay level instead of how much responsibility they have day in and day out. Think of yourself at the person who is above you as being in their play. Perspectives changes in turning the tables.

In seeing others outburst in emotion at certain points. I can understand however doing it at the wrong time and place can have bad effects over your reputation and potential business. In having explosive emotions in your mind and outwardly, you need to ask yourself what is the main cause of this current issue. Using your emotions in the right way constructively is very important for your well being and respect from others.

This why I create art as being a vehicle for expression. At times, expressing yourself is best suited visually instead of verbally. Doing art, I have been able to find myself and become more aware.

Plant The Seed Of Expanding

Too many focus on what they can't do or think they can't do. Why not get to know others and show them opportunities they didn't realize were open to them. I take time to get to know others and listen close. I say to the people I know and meet over time, why not start a restaurant, make a course on how to sharpen knives, expanding their market in who can use their product, give connections with others who can help to obtain the final result.

One time I was talking to this lady. She said she needs an attorney. I said I bet you already know one and don't realize it because an attorney is already in your circle. Soon after, She said recently an attorney helped her with legal work to protect her from a situation. I said, See you already have an attorney within your own reach. You have to acknowledge it.

Value Yourself Before Anyone else Values You

Today, I was talking to another artist. Her show got rained out. She was feeling sick. I said to her, I'd like to help you in many other social media outlets to help her get out there. The more you limit your venues, the more you limit your sales. She said, it is not worth it to expand.  I said, it is worth it when you raise your prices. Honestly, your perception of weither you can or can't is strictly up to you. Too many people don't see how much the limiting self beliefs are impacting their current and past results.

I personally have been there.  Yes, it is not good and the hard times happens. When I have shows or festivals in which get rained out, I think to myself, how can I turn this around to become more productive. Go out there and network. You never know, someone who knows someone else can create another event to rebound or another connection at a later point. 

Building Trust And Respect

Recently, I was in a big meeting of where a large discussion was taking place in front a town. There was so much outrage and many people angry at the situation among the committee members. The lady who was beside me was attacking the committee member in question. I wanted to listen to the whole meeting and be quiet. when the lady beside me was yelling at the committee, the committee was loking at me and seeing I wanted no part of it. How can you burst into anger in front of everyone there and develop trust with everyone.

I was not there for the committee member issue. I was there to build rapport with those people in a calm and respectful manner. In saying what you are saying, speak with meaningful purpose. Listen before you speak to understand their point of view. I was very patient in waiting for the right time to speak since I wanted to be heard correctly. Opportunities don't normally pop right in the place in going to a new place. The communities have to see you as an asset and upstanding person to respectfully honor. Keep on going and reaching out. You never know until you opportunity will come since they are thinking about you and bring a stronger relationship in building trust.

Living Life Or Taking Your Life Too Early

Today, someone made a story up in saying I am suicidal in which it is false. What is the point of giving up when I have given so much encouragement to so many people. Yes, in my late teens to almost my mid 20's I had depression. Releasing the hurt and trauma from my earlier years was a huge stepping stone to healing.

The question in which needs to be asked is, Do I really want to be known as the person who gave up? Do I want to inflict pain on my family and friends? No, I have so much more to live for. I have a purpose and much more to do.

The same goes for you. Your purpose will come when you least expect it to reveal it to you. Be open to understand your purpose instead of the easy way out of giving up. This all boils down to what do you want in your life. Take a look in the mirror and examine your life. Is where you are the place you desire to be in? If not, it is time to shift into the person and place you see yourself being in.

Being Human

In the present time, we go through hardships whether it would be a death, a mistake, misjudgement, loss of all different aspects. In the moment it is the most influential time. The question is, Would you view these situations in hindsight as though you are speaking to yourself in a comforting way and learning from each one?

For someone it can evoke strong emotion for each trigger. The whole ideas can haunt each person for a decades and potentially for a lifetime. For each individual this is all subject to powerful moments in their life. Understanding what has been learned from the situation is more critical then the at the moment it is happening. Healing is the starting point of knowledge.

What mistakes have you learned from? I would like to hear from you.

Use The Negativity Of Others To Propel You

My family says they believe in my business when they don't even have any clue how it works nor how much work it takes to put into it. All of my family, has either given up and or never even attempted in doing what they love. Yet they wonder why they aren't personally happy. I see my family and ask the question, Do I want to be in the same place as them at their same stage, No way. I have goals and momentum to go.

Years ago, my family said to me, I believe in you then questiond me later. What is the point of saying something in this context deemed meaningless. Why not base your words and actions in a meaningful and propelling intent. Use what people tell you, "You Can't Do This Or Do That?" to push you. I know it lights my fire up. Prove it to yourself you can accomplish what you set your mind to. Do all in which is required and more to get it. You are worth the effort, time, and investment of bring the idea you have in your mind to life.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       

The Average Mental Plague

Too many people would rather disbelieve then to believe in anyone including their own self. Watch what others question are. The types of questions being asked are where they are mentally. Just because you don't believe something doesn't make it false. Open your mind to world of self belief.

The same notion goes with being a professional artist. People don't think they can make a living when they haven't  even don't a speck of research and believe only what they are (told). Artists are the only people who have failed. There are by far more business owners who have failed then artists. What it all comes down to is the mindset of learning instead of seeing failure as a final forever result.

If the artist is providing value for your business by displaying in your business, what doesn't matter if he or she does this professionally or not. The main point is the artist is bringing high value to your business and in a timely manner meanwhile being professional. I am here to help those in their weaknesses and have other people in where my weaknesses are.

Life Is Fragile. Decide To Do Differently

In hearing about so many people passing, it brings the question of "Am I  operating my life on my own terms?" Getting old doesn't take as long as you think. Years feel like seconds. Eventually it will be you in the person's place where you currently see them at. It is not about doom and gloom. The honesty with yourself is what matters.

Having empathy has its pros and cons however it does have a positive in seeing beyond our ownself. In seeing yourself from a different perspective in looking from outside into who you are is a whole new world too many miss from the daily busyness we associate with. In seeing this, your time becomes more valuable to yourself by the choices you make. What are you choosing to change today in order to live your life on your own terms?