Asking The Right Questions In Life

Each decade, we as individuals change and shift. The life experiences from the loss of loved ones, What do we want from life? Every week we need to ask this question. Every day is a new gift to succeed in going toward that gift. No one knows how long we have until their time comes. Some live longer while others are taken out early. For instance, my childhood best friend, he, his sister, their two other friends passed away in a car accident. My best friend was 18, his sister was 20, just married, their friends were 16 and 13. By the police report alcohol had played a part. Thankfully I was not in this situation and choose to be sober. I am not saying I am better then my best friend however I made better decisions without peer pressure with being a large influence.

In being a young age, thankfully I was able to have the developed intuition and understanding to be on my own. Having the right friends and influences becomes more important in the developing years even though not comprehending it until years later.

I believe the building blocks of self confidence and self love need to be shown and taught for overall mental health as adults. I was never taught this until my mid to late 30s. The main thing is I learned from my mistakes and what was missing from my life. Others may not learn this until they are 50 and older. By then, more decades went by in which are gone forever. We have to be in the moment in making what is best for us and our loved ones every day.

The Quality Of Your Life Is By Essential Habits

I am here to talk to you today about invest in yourself. The more you put into yourself the more you can help others. The urgency is today since you will never get your time back. Choose to be a consistent learner because it will become one of your biggest assets. Always do your homework before investing in anything. Think about will we need it in the future now and in the future. The etf’s are great broad market of several stocks into one. Yes it will go up and down however the losses will only be very small overall compared to a single stock. Always look at what are the fees. In the fees will determine how much you will able to keep rather then giving your money away. Never go by the newest fad as your foundation in the investments you make. Possibly in the small percentage so you have much less risk of losing your investment.

The importance of this is about the quality of your life. Not about the money, Being able to afford better healthcare, food, quality to enjoy and share with others in your near future. The time goes so fast so you in your best benefit is to start as soon as you can now. I want to see everyone have the ability to take care of theirselves without having ask anything from anyone. Having life on your own terms is more important to do as you choose and much less stress knowing you will be set.

A More Focused Chapter In Your Life

In the recent times, I have decided to focus on the quality of the people who are in my life. For those who try to implant their self limiting beliefs in my mind have to be let go. I am here to be with people who are here to want others to succeed and to have a unbiased opinion except for pushing others forward.

Even in the fact of saying goodbye to people I have known for close to 20 years was challenging however worth the effort to let them go. For those who don’t reach out to you to talk to you unless you talk to them, move on. Clearly you are not important to them. Or if you contact them and they act like you are a burden to them, time to let them go.

Choosing the right relationships in telling you what you really need to hear rather then what you want to hear is going to be the best for your overall well being. It is upfront honesty in which this world needs more of. I enjoy seeing other succeed and celebrate with them. Why not create the mental environment you seek with like minded people.

Writing Events-Emotions

Choosing to be happy in life is one of the most challenging choices to make. Especially with the loss of losing loved ones, the countless distractions, family members who don’t see eye to eye with you nor really supportive, time going by so fast by the year even though you are the same person striving to be your best.

Not honestly knowing how long you have to spend with your family such my parents, feeling like you have no time because of working so much to have not nearly as much as what is being put in. Not being understood, and surrounded by people who have so much self limiting beliefs, it blinds them to from truly being happy. I want the best for my mother. She has dealt with depression all of her life. My mother is working through losing both of her parents, (my grandparents). They were the best part of her life and a stable home, she didn’t have from her biological parents. Thankfully the opportunity came from my grandparents adopting my mother. I believe it was for a better reason.

Yes, I want to spend time with my family, since they have been there from day one. I still think about my grandparents, and uncles I lost last year. I know, no one lives forever and each individual has to want to live in order to live longer. I can visibly see vitality and vibrancy in their being.

Create a life’s purpose instead of living in someone else’s perception. Yes honor their legacy however you have your own mark to make.

Your Vision

From time to time, I think about how can I leave my legacy even stronger. As a visual artist, I have to ask myself, Is this piece timeless. All great art is timeless. Everything in which is always relevant will be here forever for everyone to experience.

Build relationships is key to any success. The trust has to be there in order to do business. Going above and beyond business in a personal way can lead to many referals however there must be a pure motive in help people. Remember, each individual there is a lesson to learn. Be open to learning new things in order to improve yourself. The better you develop yourself, the more of an asset you become and value other will want to be a part of . At the end the day, you have to learn to listen your inner voice and evolve in your own way.

Being Heard And Understood

I recently had a conversation with a mental health professional. I had an epiphany moment with all of the connection towards mental health so many people deal with at some point or another in life.

As miltary veterans come back after serving, they don’t have the mental health services and feel so issolated because of all of the trauma in the battle field as the civiian don’t understand the long term trauma in which went on. Not having the support, and having no one to process the events after serving can bring major issolation even in the fact of serving our country. At the face value serving in the military it is seen as honorable. I can see why so many veterans feel punished and ignored for serving even from decades to now.

Connecting the same feeling of issolation to visual artists, gay, trans, and veterans is what each group of people have a challenge in. Yes, the general may not understand the perception of gay, trans, and visual artists. We must acknowledge everyone as human. The human aspect is what we need to respect each individual as rather then the physical appearence.

Also in having veterans come back to being a civilan, commiting suicide is a very high rate. The same goes for trans individuals. Both sides are conflicting from one side wanting to be in one area and another urging itself to be in another going in the opposite direction.

Today, make sure you take the time to acknowledge people especially if you know they have been through a lot. The overall feeling of being apart of a community in being wanted will shift the personal perception by accepting individuality.

Choose To Have Mercy

Thoughout the years and lessons learned, I am glad I had mercy for others despite being treated badly, and made fun of for 10 years of my life until almost graduating high school. I believe pain teaches us lessons. It doesn’t have to be physical pain. It can be any sort of long lasting pain.

For instance, a situation arised by in high school where this kid was a good student, however had a big ego and abusive with his words. I was forced to work with him because of the alphebetical order by our last names. He kept on making fun of me for months every day. There came a point of time, I was done with him doing it and no longer acceptable. We were working on a large bookshelf for the teacher in the wood tech class. One morning, I pick up a giant piece of thick plywood and was about to make him black out. I started to swing the giant piece of plywood and something inside me said to stop mid swing. As I did the whole class and the teacher were staring at me. I didn’t say anything to the kid. After the incident happened, the kid finally started to respect me., There will be times you have to stick up for yourself however, you can do it in a more peaceful way.

I am grateful to have mercy. Even if I wouldn’t get penalized for it. The memories would stick with me for a lifetime of regret. Why decide to live in regret for something you wish you could have changed your response to? I wouldn’t be here now if I didn’t have self control. I am grateful to have to since i have more room to help others all because of better decisions I made before. What are you most proud of in having mercy for in the situation? I’d like to hear your stories.

Be There For Loved Ones

People go through so much we never know even on the outside everything appears to fine. Everyone needs to know someone is there for them. Just like the situation of when my mother was in the hospital. I didn’t know if she was going to come back alive and completely all here in the present. The hosptials need to create a program of where they play the videos speaking to their loved ones who are in the coma. No, the loved ones can’t speak out loud, they can hear you in what you speak. I hugged on her. I told her I love her. I told her, I am proud of her. I encouraged her to want to live.

In knowing even in the small areas of what people are dealing with and have dealt with, show understanding and compassion for their own well-being. These days, too many people look down on everyone else for having flaws or mess ups when in reality, we need to see the short comings as being human. Show you care about them even without the fact you benefiting at all. See yourself as the other individual. Do you want others to care about you? Show you care about them before they will care about you. Remember this.

Give Thanks To Everyone

Each time someone does something for you, tell them, “Thank you”. Everyone wants to feel important and appreciated. Taking others time and energy for granted will make people not want to help you currently and in the future. At time same time doing a service and or help others isn’t about the recognition. It needs to be done with a pure heart. These days people will see right through on the real intention.

In giving thanks to others be authentic when telling the person who helps you. Each individual doesn’t owe anyone anything and could have decided not to help you. They made the decision right then and there to be at your time of need in some compacity when they could be somewhere else. The time of helping someone is unreplacable and needs to be shown real gratitude.

I want to take this time to thank everyone since day one of my birth, Thank you for being there in my time of need. I know you didn’t have yet, you choose to be there and support my growth on all levels, including connetions, clothings, shoutouts to your networks, helped to give me a place to live, a place to expand my creativity, and for the future to enable me to help others in repayment. I would like to hear your feedback and stories. I appreciate your honest support.

Seek Peace And Laser Focus Each Day

Make time to mediate in order to strengthen your focus. Life is more about the quality, ideas, and creating a lifetime of memories for yourself and others. In challenging times you will be able to make it through. Once you decide to make the routine to have quiet times with medication your life will improve drastically,. I know one surface doing it doesn’t seem like much. Experiencing it you wil change for the better.

Today is the best time to make time for yourself. Take away the daily distractions. Your blood pressure will decrease and each You owe it to yourself to give special dedicated times for you. I am here if you need any ideas and look forward to hearing your feedback. Bringing you the best value day in and day out to improve life is what we strive to be.